Ever notice how when other people tell us what they don't like about us, or what bothers them about us, they usually turn around and do the exact same thing? Ever notice how when someone makes a low vibrational comment like "omg! she's so outspoken, its so annoying " , it's actually because they wish their own throat chakra was a little more clear so that they can speak their own truths without fear of judgement? Well , We're all just mirrors. We are all mirrors for each other (especially in a twin flame dynamic but that'll be a whole other blog entry ), for now , lets stick to basic human interactions.
What you see in another that you do not like , or that annoys you, is what you need to look at within yourself. Why does it bother you that that other person is so outspoken ? Have you grown up being muted? Have you been in relationships where you couldn't fully express yourself? Were you constantly told to Shut up as a child? Find what irritates you about certain people and situations and ask yourself why ?
" I don't like that she did this that and the other" ... Ok.. Why ?
Why do you feel annoyed? attacked? disrespected? Which part of you actually want to be a little more like that other person? Does it annoy you that they have the confidence to actually be outspoken and you do not have that confidence? Does it bother you that they are happy with themselves enough to speak their truths, and you need a little more self love to be comfortable enough to do the same? Find the root of the trigger without being so focused on the actual trigger, make sense?
These are the questions we have to ask OURSELVES to begin our own self love and healing processes. WHY? Ask yourself WHY? Its such a short word, 3 little letters, with so much impact. WHY?
What do children ask the most when you try to explain something? WHY? .. It's because they are trying to learn and understand how things work the way they do. So how come as adults, we forget to ask ourselves this very same question ? Truly ask yourself WHY? so that you can identify where the REAL problem lies . So that you may begin to do the work to fix that issue . It's time we look at and into our own selves rather than project to others. Rather than expecting others to fix our problems, or rather than just simply disliking another human being , which can be for no apparent reason at all, other than its because we really don't like ourselves. When you find yourself in a negative mindset, stop for a second and ask yourself these questions.
Why do I feel this way? Why am I letting this take over my mind? Why did I allow this to happen ? What can I do to change this mindset? What can I do to shift my perspective? Why does it bother me that this person is so outspoken? So independent? So free? Why am I triggered by someone elses behavior , thoughts, words or actions? WHY? You're not in control of any one else, so WHY do their actions affect YOU ? The real answer will always lie within you. And its up to you to find it.
The point of this entry is not to point fingers. It's to try and get you all to ask yourself these questions that so that YOU can go WITHIN. Truly learn from yourself, your past experiences, your traumas, triggers , etc. so that YOU can begin your own healing. At the end of the day, real healing comes from within yourself and is for yourself.
To whoever is reading this, I thank you for being here. I am proud of you for looking for healing because that's what brought you here in the first place. You will heal if you are ready for change , I promise. Be patient with yourself and really ask yourself these important questions, write down your answers, discuss them with your therapist, life coach, or even your friends and family that you can depend on. I know I have a bit of a rough approach when it comes to advice, or writing in general, but I mean what I say with love always, and I just want to help humanity in any way I can. We are all growing, evolving and learning everyday. We are all here on different journeys for different reasons, and with different lessons to learn and believe me I am still learning mine. But just know you are not alone .
I just hope we, as a collective, can start to really evaluate OURSELVES and ask OURSELVES these very important questions, and I think the number one question to start with is , WHY?
Vany the Bruja