masculine vs feminine energy

   Hello everyone ! Happy Saturday. 
After a much needed blog hiatus, I am back with a topic that seems to be becoming increasingly popular here in the internet world, which is the balance (or lack of ) between masculine and feminine energies. So grab a snack, you already know I am hood-ied up with a coffee and I'm ready to go. 

Let me start off by giving you a quick run down of these energies first so that you can better understand what they do for us as humans. Masculine and feminine energies are in all of us, just because you are a man, does not mean that you only have, or SHOULD only have masculine energy and vice versa. This is not about gender, this is about energy. But I will be using the pronouns; he/she for this blog as it just makes it easier for me. The goal here is to balance them both within ourselves, why? Because this is how we are complete.  As you move toward this balance, life becomes more whole, you become happier, more aware, more harmonious and over all healthier. 

Masculine energy is characterized by DOING and achieving , and it is molded by logic and reason. The feminine is more intuitive, oriented towards receiving and allowing, and characterized by BEING. Which is why when these energies are balanced, we are then able to experience a greater sense of harmony and fulfillment. Masculine energy is confident, It takes action and it takes responsibility. It is powerful, sometimes controlling, assertive and decisive . The feminine energy is more intuitive, more creative ,sensitive, and free flowing. 

A woman that is too deep in her masculine side will be aggressive, competitive, and dominating. While a man too much in his feminine, may not be so assertive, might not take action toward what he wants to achieve, etc. 

​When a masculine energy is out of balance, he can become controlling, he may have trouble truly connecting with a woman, he can also be insecure, try to assert dominance in unhealthy ways, etc. When a woman's feminine energy isn't balanced, she can have trouble asking for help , she can not be trusting of others, she may not be "a care taker" so easily. She may also be very independent, and directive. Sometimes a bit harsh as well, or not very emotional. 

For women in the area of love, too much masculine energy can show up as you chasing, pursuing, initiating too much or doing too much , instead of relaxing, allowing, receiving, opening up for support or asking for help .

For men, being too much in their masculine can mean that they lack confidence to make decisions. Masculine energy allows us to be responsible for taking action. Which starts in our thinking process, but in order to act, we must decide , and in order to decide, we must have the confidence in our abilities to follow through with our decisions. 

We have to think of polarity here.. The sun and the moon, night and day, inhale and exhale. As above, so below, as within , so without, and so on and so forth. There always needs to be a balance. And as you read this, please keep in mind, again,  that this has nothing to do with gender, and I am speaking on energy. We are ALL energy. Everything is energy . 

​Giving is an action of our divine masculine , while receiving is an action of our divine feminine, and a balance of both those energies is how we feel most harmonious , which is why an equal exchange and reciprocity is so important within relationships. With that being said, no one is perfect and its very difficult to achieve a perfect balance because we will always lean more toward one side to the other, it's just human nature and we have to consider the way we grew up, unhealed traumas, etc etc. 

So lets think of yin and yang. The yin energy is our feminine side, this is stillness, night time, intuition, creativity, senses and feelings . This means you feel a lot, you feel things before they happen or before you can even understand them. You might have even been called "needy" or "sensitive" . You might not be an introvert but you most likely have introverted tendencies . The good part is that you are great at being vulnerable, honest, transparent, and authentic . You have integrity, you're wise and have the ability to connect deeply to others. When your energies are balanced, people feel seen, heard and understood by you. .

The imbalance is that you're such an empath , you can become an energetic sponge and take on other peoples energy or the energy of the environment you're in. If something goes wrong, you will harp on it. You lose empowerment. It's like your mind is being held hostage by your cycling thoughts. Do not forget that this energy is STILLNESS. Although, too much stillness can leave you feeling lonely or isolated or leads you to stay in unhealthy relationships (whether personal or professional) for too long. You can also exhaust others. Of course they love you but others may start to feel responsible for your happiness and resentful of your sadness. 

The way to balance your Yin (feminine side) is to meditate, journal, sleep, take time for yourself. Set aside time to feel your feelings and release them. This is your superpower !  Cry if you need to, or dance it all out. The trick here is to set aside time for yourself and your feelings. Get ahead of your feelings so that they don't hijack your day. Feelings are a portal to our intuition. It offers helpful feedback . When you put off your feelings, or don't make time for them, they can come back retroactively, and it can then take you longer to process what the fuck just happened. 

Try to schedule in 20 minutes once or twice daily, just for this. Think of it as time to recalibrate. Stop asking for advice and forfeiting your power to others and start tuning into your intuition to empower yourself. 

​If you're pretty well balanced, you can be sensitive, curious , self aware and you're able to go with the flow. Your process can be slower than others but its your journey of self discovery and you appreciate it all by connecting fully with It ( I love how my ear just started ringing )...Confirmation !!! Thank you source! 

​Being balanced in your feminine energy means you create a safe space everywhere you go, you're fluid with your feelings and you allow others to explore theirs. You can also often advocate for others who aren't advocating for themselves. (defending or standing up for others ) . Even if you don't always do this for yourself. The imbalance is too much self sacrificing, or abandoning yourself (see my other blog post about disrespecting yourself for more on this ), It's going to catch up with you eventually and feel like bitterness, resentment, or like you're being taken for granted. 

​You may also have a tendency to jump to assumptions or make up stories in your head, rather than just asking for clarification . Even if you do not agree or are not understanding another person, take their words at face value and respect their way of being. Offer yourself peace of mind, and let it go. 

​A good way to balance feminine energy is to be creative! I can't say this enough. This can be a great mirror for your spiritual growth, whether its dancing, taking a pottery class, painting, writing, Plan to make time for yourself and show up ! 

Boundaries are also important for you. Without them, your need for self love and self care will bleed into relationships and your feelings can get hurt a little too easily. Make space for yourself and see how much easier relationships get, you'll realize how much less you actually "need" from another person, and how much more you'll be ale to offer. 

Now lets move it along to the Yang (masculine energy), and if you've read this far , I thank you. 

Masculine energy is more extroverted, dominant, it moves at a faster pace, and is more active. 
This masculine energy can make life look easy. It almost comes off as "I won't limit myself because I know there is so much out there to discover" . 
If you do not use your masculine energy wisely, it can turn against you. and it will. 
​It can make you feel trapped, stuck , or anxious. You may be ungrateful for your blessings which can sabotage a healthy job or relationship because it seems too peaceful to you. 

Make sure you are nurturing your curiosity, sense of adventure and desire for growth in a healthy way. HEALTHY!! Take on a new hobby. Learn a new language, invest in crypto , dance, whatever ! Because you will ultimately outgrow this hobby and need something new . So plan for it. Adding adventure to your life will reduce drama. So prioritize self care. Go on a walk every day as a hobby, take up nature photography, when you outgrow that, go on runs instead. The goal is to take on a hobby you enjoy, and once you stop enjoying it, switch it up ! But make time for your hobbies, because the feeling of boredom can lead you to destructive shit. 
Also remember that just because others feel close to you, does not mean you are obligated to reciprocate the feeling. Do yourself a favor, and care about you first. Honor this with healthy boundaries. 

Not being a balanced masculine can leave you feeling failed by or be disappointed in others. People may also be easily intimidated by you and be afraid to share information , thoughts or emotions with you. 
Give yourself some credit for what you do, without overextending for other people. You might give too much and not receive enough when your energy is out of balance. Save your energy for those that count the most. 

Lean into your strengths. 
​Words of affirmation : "I am a great giver and an excellent receiver" 

​Healthy feminine energy is open, patient, caring, wise, flexible and compassionate. Combine that with a healthy masculine energy and it gives that all more structure and focus. 
Healthy Masculine energy is focused, disciplined, active, has a purpose, has a vision.. sprinkle some healthy feminine energy and it softens and deepens it a bit, and it makes it wiser. 

​Unhealthy feminine energy is completely absent of masculine, it becomes stagnant, lazy , unfocused, over nurturing, unmotivated and sometimes depressed. 
Unhealthy masculine energy that is absent of feminine energy becomes destructive, aggressive, narrow minded , cold , frustrated, unstable and withdrawn. 

The goal here to find the balance between logical thoughts (masculine) and intuitive feelings (feminine)
the balance between your mind (masculine) and your senses (feminine) a balance between decisive action and creativity. Between risk taking and being nurturing. A balance between being impulsive (masculine) and reflective. A balance between competition and collaboration. A balance between analytical and empathetic. A balance between being assertive and being trusting. A balance between being disciplined and being grounded. 
(I will be posting more of this throughout the week on my instagram stories, so make sure you check it out if you're interested in learning more)

Like I said earlier (up there somewhere), finding a perfect balance is difficult but lets put it this way ; a love relationship for example between two unbalanced energies. 
Let's say Bob and Linda are together (and yes I am using Bobs Burgers references because its my blog and I can word this how I want ,haha ).

 Bob is so in his masculine that he criticizes Linda for being too much in her feminine, which he doesn't understand because of course, he is unbalanced. She uses her intuition , so Bob might think she's crazy. She likes to dance and express her femininity or her expressive creativity and Bob might take it as offensive to his ego. So now Linda begins to downplay herself, and abandon her own needs. So now, Linda has resentment. Now Linda is also in her masculine. Now Linda, is uncomfortable speaking about her needs, so she stops asking Bob for help. She starts to become "too independent" , she now wants Bob to see her for who "she is " so she starts giving more into the relationship , and now there is no reciprocity.
Now Linda begins to feel unheard, unseen, and unsafe. And this is how women stay in masculine energy. 

The point is, No relationship is going to succeed without at least a bit of balance between these energies. A woman is supposed to first and foremost feel SAFE enough to be able to be VULNERABLE to RECEIVE . So if her partner is too much in his own masculine, the woman simply cannot be fully in their feminine. and of course, vise versa. 

If Linda was too much in her masculine , Bob would feel un-needed, unwanted, or bored because he simply has nothing "to do" for Linda, because she does it all herself. Masculine energy is about DOING, and taking ACTION. So when Linda says "never mind Bob! I did it already", she leaves Bob feeling small. 
 
I can go on with examples of Bob and Linda, but I think by now you catch my drift. 
I know sometimes, I seem like I'm a bit "out there" but energy doesn't lie people, ever! We are energy ! (look it up if you don't believe me, shit, you don't have to listen to me at all) , but remember that the universe does this thing...where it aligns you with people, things and situations that match the energy you put out. The more you improve yourself and raise your vibration, the more you will see things that are beneficial to your well being. 
We are all fragmented energy from the same source. 
​And energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another. So choose what you are changing, or not. Choose how you are living. Everything begins with your thoughts, your emotions amplify it, your actions give it momentum . 

as the ever so cheesy quote goes "be the change you wish to see in the world" .

​I don't know who said that but I know you've heard it before. And that is where I'll leave this one. 
Again, thank you for reading, thank you for being here. and Thank you for your support 

Peace & Love,
​V

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